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Perspective

There’s a lot swirling around in my head right now about personal focus and perspective. About how this world is what we make it. About how we can actually change ourselves, change our perspective, change our focus. Only we can do that for ourselves.

It started with good old Crazy Aunt Purl’s New Year’s post.  Specifically #2—come from a place of yes. Go ahead and read that and then come back. This concept is something I’ve been working on for years now. Slowly. I have long recognized I was brought up with exactly the opposite attitude. I was brought up in a house that recognized the negative, harshly judged the different, and squelched possibility. At some point I stepped back and listened to myself (again) and said NO. I don’t want to end up an old woman who carps and complains, unable to see the good, unable to see the beauty, unable to recognize and share in joy, crippled by my own defensiveness, feeding my loneliness.

I want to live my life seeing the happy things around me, being grateful for all the good that my world encompasses and focusing on the beauty and joy in the world. I want to think that people try hard and do their best at the time. I want to listen in a way that assumes the other person has the best intentions with their words, even if they come out wrong. I want to see the possibility in the day, in my dreams. It is so true that you notice what you look for, and I want to look for the good.

It’s not easy. I can see the ways that I’m slowly changing. One of my biggest pain points is how to deal with the negativity around me. I feel that I come to the brink of confrontation at times because I’m trying to deflect another’s negativity through conversations where I, in the end, sound defensive and judgemental. I think that’s a big growth point I need to focus upon this year. I need to accept another person’s viewpoint as their own, and know that it does not need to shade mine.

This is my year of possibility. This is my year of taking the plunge and making something possible that I’ve been slowly feeding and forming a dream about since before I knew I had started dreaming. This is my year of action. I’m exhilarated. I’m terrified. I’m ready.

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